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So I am having this email correspondence with a friend of mine, lamenting the way my anti-depressants have deep-sixed my libido and sexual response.
My friend (let's call him "Steve") (although his real name is Reginald Archibald Hinglethwick and he lives at... kidding, just kidding!) argues that this (libido killed by meds) is not really the case, that I'm merely tired of "known dick" (my term) or "old dick" (his term), and that if I simply found "unknown dick" (my term) or "new dick" (his term), my libido would be magically resurrected.
Uhm, well, that actually happened while I was broken up w/my bf for a couple months over the summer. I briefly gadded about (mostly horizontally) with a new lover. And there was much rejoicing. Much. Very much. Yay!
( some digressive background explanation which may be TMI for some people, but... I don't care, just read at your own risk )
So when I mused, to my friend "Steve," about how my libido woke like Sleeping Beauty for the guy with whom I had my brief six week fling over the summer, "Steve" responded:
I read that, and thought, Nobody wants to fuck anybody nobody else wants to fuck... omg, that is perfect, it is so true, and it so brutally explains male/female dating and mating and hating and berating (to quote Matt Groening's "Life In Hell" cartoon from MANY years before The Simpsons).
Nobody wants to fuck anybody nobody else wants to fuck trumps He's just not that into you. imho.
My friend (let's call him "Steve") (although his real name is Reginald Archibald Hinglethwick and he lives at... kidding, just kidding!) argues that this (libido killed by meds) is not really the case, that I'm merely tired of "known dick" (my term) or "old dick" (his term), and that if I simply found "unknown dick" (my term) or "new dick" (his term), my libido would be magically resurrected.
Uhm, well, that actually happened while I was broken up w/my bf for a couple months over the summer. I briefly gadded about (mostly horizontally) with a new lover. And there was much rejoicing. Much. Very much. Yay!
( some digressive background explanation which may be TMI for some people, but... I don't care, just read at your own risk )
So when I mused, to my friend "Steve," about how my libido woke like Sleeping Beauty for the guy with whom I had my brief six week fling over the summer, "Steve" responded:
I assume that "known dick" thing is why guys like [gay friend of ours] like a fresh dick almost every time. Certainly it's the reason men fuck other women aside from their women at home, so I don't find it either shocking or unusual that you would be going through this now.
Maybe you just need a reasonably steady relationship with a new guy and when you don't care about sex with him, start doing other dudes, in addition to him.
It's that whole jealousy/fighting thing that does it for [people]. Nobody wants to fuck anybody nobody else wants to fuck!"
I read that, and thought, Nobody wants to fuck anybody nobody else wants to fuck... omg, that is perfect, it is so true, and it so brutally explains male/female dating and mating and hating and berating (to quote Matt Groening's "Life In Hell" cartoon from MANY years before The Simpsons).
Nobody wants to fuck anybody nobody else wants to fuck trumps He's just not that into you. imho.