You didn't "waste" nearly five years of your life. You grew. You learned. You struggled. You probably had sex a lot! It's not the worst thing.

Yet, you should be proud to put this relationship behind you. The two of you don't seem to have much in common and he's - shudder - apparently incapable of "getting" you. And since you're nothing if not a person who expresses what there is about her to *get* I begin to fear for his mind.... Obvious cluelessness is only cute in fanfic, imho.

Love you, max
P.S. - More obligatory "hang in there" exhortations!